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Don't Be Impulsive, It Can Be Counterproductive

I was having a deep and informative conversation with a very good and wise friend of mine and he said a few things that really made me think.  Now this friend I consider my secret weapon because his intelligence and wisdom goes far beyond the charm he exudes.   We were discussing human behavior in regards to ulterior motives.  After a misfortunate situation or tragedy happens in our life the immediate actions we take and the choices we make are very sensitive and vulnerable.  

Impulsive behavior can lead us into a lot of things other than debt and disappointment.  Immediate reaction on a situation without carefully thinking of the results and or repercussions of those actions can worsen the outcome.  Responding impulsively to a negative situation could communicate things that you really don’t want communicated.  Whether or not your impulsive behavior was negative or positive, the lack of thoroughly examining the intent and purpose could be more of a hindrance than a help.

Counterproductive is hindering the achievement of a set goal or purpose.  Impulsive behavior can be counterproductive if we don’t measure our behavior.  Remember to always think before you act and make sure the choices you make after a misfortunate situation, or any situation, is one that will help you serve your purpose and not hinder your growth or weaken your strength.  Remember, for every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction. 

Are the decision and choices you make impulsive?  Are you mindful to avoid being counterproductive?

From My Thoughts To Yours

Expectation Without Appreciation

We all have people in our lives that we care for and appreciate. We appreciate a loved one listening to us when we need someone to talk to. We appreciate that friend telling us the truth when no one else would. We appreciate family being there in our times of need. A lady appreciates a man who’s a gentleman. A gentleman appreciates a woman who’s a lady.

But have you ever felt that moment when the appreciation of luxury turns into expectation? Recently I’ve had a friend make complaints that their significant other no longer appreciates the little special things or those memorable moments that material things can not capture. Those moments that last a lifetime and embed themselves in your mind and heart for eternity. They feel the sincerity and surprise element of giving their significant other a sumptuous gift is no longer there, but instead replaced with a “what else” or “what’s next” attitude.

Your Behind In Technology. Does It Effect Our Relationship?

MiniBlog Originally Posted via Facebook Notes on October 15, 2009.

Earlier this week I was teasing a friend of mine for being behind in technology. This individual doesn't partake it any of the Social Networking sites, rarely text messages, hardly sends or even check their emails, and only logs onto a PC when absolutely necessary. I inform them that they are missing an entire new world that has unfolded before our eyes.

But then I realized that because of their choice to not be sucked into the world of cyberspace, that we don't communicate or exchange information regularly. However, when we do, we are on the phone for an extended period of time catching up on the happenings of each other lives.

Can Someone Recover From A Bad First Impression?

MinigBlog Originally Posted via Facebook Notes on October 9, 2009.

It's been said and we all have said it, "first impressions lasts a lifetime". I'm a big believer and supporter in this statement. The first time I meet someone or even come into contact with them where verbal communication has to take place, I'm not only listening to what they are saying out of their "mouth" but what they are saying out of their "spirit" and "character".

Having An Expiration Date on Marriages

MiniBlog Originally Posted Via Facebook Notes on September 18, 2009.

Lately I've been coming into the same topic of conversation with a few of my male friends, all of whom are single I must first add. Single by definition of "not being married". The question that has been asked 3 times over the past month has been, "so Jamara, what do you think about the courts providing an option for 3,5, or 10 year marriage license?".

Now I'm not sure where the true source of this information originated from but I think it came from a comedy show. But the topic is definitely one for discussion.