Have you ever looked at your timeline or news feed on your social media account and felt everyone had something fabulous and important going on in their lives, except you? You know, like the exciting photos or travel journey updates that online friends blasts for the world to see? One of the powers and advantages of social media is that it allows you to be whatever you want to be. You control everything about your life and how the world sees it.
The other day one of my girlfriends called me and the topic she lead with was how she felt her life was so behind compared to all her other friends. She spoke about how her friends are always posting great things on their social media profiles and feels she isn't doing enough with her life. She felt discouraged and unaccomplished.
I've heard this same story from at least 3 other friends over the past year and half. So I was well prepared to kick some zeal back into her life.
I told her that perception isn't always reality. What you see of people, or what they show you, isn't always what actually is. There are three types of reality.
The reality the recipient receives and interprets.
The reality the subject wants portrayed.
The reality of what actually is.
All three of these realities can be different, and if they are it doesn't mean it's wrong. Because they are different doesn't mean they aren't true either. From personal experience, and that of others, the realities we portray are sometime partial. They don't showcase the entire truth behind the image. Sometimes what you see is the ending of a long story.
Don't be discouraged by the success of others. Everyone has a journey and it's for them to explore. Your journey may be fill with celebration after celebration. The journey of another may be fill with flat tires and burnt out engines. But for those who endure, at the end of every journey is a reward for being faithful in your path.
The happy and fabulous life you see from others is the reality of the end of their path. How ever easy or difficult it may have been. So instead of allowing someone's reality to make you feel down about yourself, remember you are witnessing one of the 3 realities it can be.
Show your reality. Be motivated by the success of others. Every time you make a step forward, celebrate that moment and let it be the reality you portray. It's not being deceitful. You understand that success if progress and a combination of many steps.
What reality are you portraying? Are you using it to inspire others?
Shared over a cup of tea,
...From My Thoughts to Yours, Jamara